Comments on: “Every single day I wake up and I think of a reason not to do it…”

By: padfoot1

padfoot1 — Sat, 24 Jul 2010 04:25:56 +0000

Is he bipolar?

By: Julie

Julie — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 15:53:52 +0000

Thank you very much. I appreciate it.

By: Julie

Julie — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 14:37:22 +0000

Thanks.

Sometimes I spend too much time in my own head, but often the reason for that is so I can chisel it into proper shape.

Fighting this is hard. It can’t be done without support.

He’s a dumbass for giving up the best support he had, but what’s done is done.

By: Julie

Julie — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 14:34:49 +0000

Watching someone spin out like this is just so awful, especially when you’ve done it yourself and know what happens at The End.

Like I said, I’ve never gone as far as he, but the potential has been there.

I’ve never been more grateful that I’m a “nobody.”

By: Julie

Julie — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 14:30:09 +0000

It is all about choices.

A person can choose to let this get the best of them, or not.

He’s choosing poorly.

I hate to see that.

By: Doyce

Doyce — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 14:29:19 +0000

This is some good thinking Julie. Thanks for putting it out here were I (personally, and we, collectively) can benefit from seeing it.

By: Naomi Johnson

Naomi Johnson — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 13:39:56 +0000

So glad to read this. You’ve thought this through and didn’t just go with that jerk of the knee so many have. Like you, I hear the manipulation going on. Not to excuse what he’s said and done, but I can hear the triggers. I’ve seen this before, in other people and not famous ones. I’ll add my prayers to yours.

By: Michelle Stephens

Michelle Stephens — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 13:33:31 +0000

I don’t know if disease is the word I’d always use, but there’s definitely a source to people’s actions. Sometimes that source is disease and needs to be attended to, but sometimes it’s other things: stress, ego, drugs…

Celebrity or not, everyone’s human. So just like me, Mel has two choices: fix his shit or continue down this path of colossal douchebaggery. Up to him.

If his friend/family want to help him get it together, he should consider himself lucky. But he’s the only one that can decide what to do with his life.

Kinda like my BIL. Let’s just say his world is a mess. In the past ten years my husband, his family, friends have all offered him help. Offered him whatever he needed to get back on the right path. He never took it. He still hasn’t decided to fix his life despite all the offered help.

So Julie I applaud you. I applaud myself. I applaud all of us who make the decision to keep our shit together and approach bad situations with a better frame of mind.

It’s all about choices.

By: chuckwendig

chuckwendig — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 13:33:30 +0000

Word.

By: Julie

Julie — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 13:27:16 +0000

Absolutely. There is something septic there.

His behavior is not “excusable,” but there’s a reason for it. He does not get a free pass. No one who refuses to get the help they need can be excused.

He’s an extreme example of this that, unfortunately for him, has hit the global stage. He needs help. He needs to suck it up and get that help. He needs to cut out everyone and everything that causes him to resist that idea, even fear of looking like a “wimp.”

I used to know someone who had known his father, and the things I’ve heard about him make my skin crawl.

The cycle needs to stop with someone, and he needs to make that happen with him, regardless of the imagined cost.